Dildos: How to choose the right adult sex toy

Choosing a Dildo

Deciding on dildo sex toys can seem overwhelming to the novice, but after your first experience you'll have a much better idea of what you're looking for in a toy. Listed below are a few considerations to take into account when choosing a dildo, the first of which is the dildo's size.

Size is probably the most important factor to consider when choosing a dildo. If you have a favorite toy at home, measure its length and width and you'll already have a good idea of what size you're looking for. If you don't already own a dildo, try a toy with modest dimensions and move up from there. Often our eyes are bigger than our orifices. Vicky Venus is a great starter dildo. She's demure in size and her curvy features are both pleasing to the eye and body.

If you would rather obtain an accurate measurement of what's comfortable for you right off the bat, try this trick. Obtain a cucumber and after cleaning and peeling, play with it as you would a dildo. You'll find the cool wet feeling of this veggie to be rather erotic. Keep peeling your cucumber down until you feel it's the perfect width, and be sure to mark it with a fingernail at the length that feels most comfortable inside you too. When you're done, use the nail mark to measure the length. Then cut it in half lengthwise to measure the width (diameter across).

Dildos and other adult sex toys come in a variety of sizes, so it's important to find a size you're comfortable with. A dildo that's too long can cause pain if it bumps against the cervix. After deciding on size, the next step is to think about what look and shape you want in a toy.

Realistic versus Non-realistic
Ask yourself whether you'd prefer a realistic or non-realistic look. It's a personal decision, and there are advantages to both. Many non-realistic dildos come in beautiful colors and styles that look more like sculptures than dildos. For example, check out Cosmo or the Archer Wand.

For some women, however, a realistic-looking dildo can be a huge turn-on. The main advantage with the realistic toys is the added stimulation from the "head." The UltraReal is a good example; it has a realistic texture and features a suction cup behind the balls for hands-free gratification wherever you can find a flat surface. The outer third of the vagina is the most sensitive part, so toys that are thicker at the bottom offer the most stimulation when moved in and out. While vaginal fullness can be incredibly arousing, many women have trouble finding their G-spot and want a toy that will help them locate this enchanted spot.

G-Spot Sex Toys
If it's G-spot stimulation you're searching for, look for the arousing shaft curve in a dildo. Some of the best G-spot stimulators and sex toys we've found are the Waterproof Nubby G and the Pro Touch. Both are shaped for easy-to-find direct G-spot massage. Many women have had their first orgasms with these toys. They're also great to use with a partner to illustrate where the G-spot is located. Once your partner finds it with a sex toy, the spot often becomes easier to find during sex, leading to better, more intense orgasms.

Using your Dildo with a Harness
If you think you'd be interested in using your dildo in a sex toy harness, choose one with a flared base at the end so that it will stay in the harness. It's also important to remember that the harness will subtract about half-an-inch to an inch off the toy's length, so be sure to take this into consideration when purchasing. Once you have your harness set and ready to go, there's just one more piece of advice to remember...

Dildos: Vaginal versus Anal Play
It is generally not recommended to use the same sex toy for anal and vaginal play. If you want to use your toy both ways, protect it with a condom first and change condoms when going from anus to vagina (generally going from vagina to anus is okay, but anus to vagina is not). The bacteria in the anus and rectum can cause infections, including urinary tract infections. Nonporous toys like silicone and Pyrex dildos are the exceptions to this rule - as long as they are sterilized before going from the anus into the vagina. For more information about the differences in toy materials and how to take care of your toys, see Caring for your Sex Toys.

Finally, don't forget to use lots of lube, and above all - have fun!

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Last updated: Oct. 08, 2023
by VibeReview.com